Monday, February 19, 2018

Feb 12 - 18 Recap

Happy Monday Night!

Another week flew by! It's the second half of February already!



This past week was a blur. We were still sick most of the week and then Cam has his top two Fangs starting to break through so that has caused for some rough nights. But this week has also been full of love and family time! Here are some highlights:

* Matt and I celebrated 5 years of marriage on February 13. I love him more and more each day. There is truly nothing better than coming home to your best friend every day.



* Cam, the girls and I had all the snuggles this week with still not feeling well. He has also started loving stuffed animals all of a sudden. He carries them all around the house! His every night must have is Bluebeary. It is so cute!!


 It's a crack up, one of his favorites is this giant dog he got from Nonnie & Poppi! It's almost the same size as him! haha


* Finally got the linen cabinet and medicine cabinets cleaned out and organized. I still need to make official labels but post its work in the interim. Ahh just seeing the after picture makes me smile!


* Another silver lining, on my last day of work I got to use up the balance of my FSA account by getting myself and Matt a few pairs of prescription glasses! Long overdue! 



* We celebrated Valentines day with the most delicious heart shaped pizza from Toppers!! Thinking this needs to be a new tradition! Also a huge thank you to Target dollar section for Cam's adorable valentines for his daycare friends and then Cam made the cutest little valentine for us! 


* Cam learned how to play a game on his Amazon Kids Fire Tablet! I was amazed!! I can't believe that at his age he can learn how to not only swipe through and select the game but to also actually play the game!! Also big win, was playing the new game while going on the big boy potty haha Multitasking Win! haha



So although it was another rough week with not feeling great plus my last day of work there was still plenty to be thankful for! I am looking forward to finally feeling better and crushing some new goals! 


And let's be real, how can you have a bad week when you see this face every day!?!




Monday, February 12, 2018

Feb 5 - 11 Recap

Hey all! Happy Monday!

Mainly posting for consistency but not much of a recap this week.



The Tarry Family was all knocked on our butts this whole week with this dang Flu. I, fortunately, haven't been sick like this in a very long time!

Let me just say, this bug is no joke!

There is a few highlights:

1) I have received an insane amount of snuggles and kisses from Cameron over the past week. I keep reminding myself that he won't always want all these hugs and kisses and I should really treasure them when I get them!





2) My hubby really knows my love language. Words of affirmation go a VERY long way for me and he always knows the best things to say to keep me going, make me feel better and make me feel appreciated. He also knows I love my delicious foods and he cooked me the most delicious steak, sweet potato, and green beans dinner last night! He truly is my best friend and on weeks like this where every day seems to be never-ending and constant struggles I am reminded how thankful I am to be married to my best friend and have him as my lifelong partner.





3) Even with not feeling well and some major tummy issues *thank you FLU!* Cam STILLLLLL has been going on the potty!!!!! This kid is amazing! He will stop playing, stand up and go running for the potty! So awesome! I tried finding him some pull ups but they don't make them that small!

So yeah, thats about it! Hopefully we will have finally kicked this thing in the next day or so!

Looking forward to a fresh new week!




Friday, February 9, 2018

Lucky Number 13

Well I finally got the call I knew was coming.

Tuesday February 13 will be my last day at Wells Fargo - I'm getting terminated.



For those that have no idea what I am talking about let me fill you in.

Last July, I found a fantastic new position in the Private Client Group division of Wells Fargo as a Control Specialist and applied on a whim. It was something totally new to me but sounded amazing! It seemed to match my interests of endless spreadsheets, compliance driven and out of retail. After a pretty lengthy interview/application process I was hired and started the job August 16th. Now throughout my various roles at Wells Fargo over the last 7.5 years I have been given opportunities to obtain certain state and FINRA licenses - California Life Insurance, Series 6, Series 63, and Series 7 to be exact. This new position had a contingency clause that stated upon starting this new role I would have 180 days (February 12) to obtain or transfer my series 7, series 63, series 65 (or 66), Series 9, and series 10 licenses.

Now, I tend to think of myself as a professional student. Really since starting elementary school I have literally NOT STOPPED studying or being in school except from May 2016 - August 2017 (but during that time it really wasn't a break, I was pregnant and new mom haha). I did summer school almost every year, took various "camps" during high school for SATs and even attended Harvard Summer School program as a high school Junior. I am no stranger to studying or taking tests. So with all that being said, the contingency truly didn't worry me.

As soon as I started the position, I STARTED the position, I was hitting the ground running working from day 1. Thankfully they did give me time every now and then to study in the office in between projects but it was learning new job and studying at the same time. Again, I felt no biggie. Now I don't know if I misjudged how this new mom life balance worked, or miscalculated how much lack of sleep affected my cognitive abilities but either way this time, studying was 1000x harder. I was studying into the early hours of the morning when I was off work in between dealing with home stuff, breastfeeding, general mom and wife duties and learning a new job. Over the course of the next 3-5 months I studied my butt off and took both my 9 and 10 twice but thankfully passed on the second attempts of both. I failed my first attempt at the 65 and had one final chance at taking the 65 before my 180 day cutoff, January 26. Honestly, I was at my breaking point. I was so exhausted and so overwhelmed and confused by the massive amounts I had been studying over the prior 6 months and I just wanted this over with. Well I didn't pass.

So we waited to hear from HR. I thought I had one more lifeline option, the series 66, as an alternative. My manager immediately called HR and tried to see if they could open my test window for the 66 to be able to squeeze in one more test before the deadline while still meeting the original contingency agreement. It was a painstaking 4 days but we finally got word that I am not eligible to take the series 66 exam. Apparently in California there is a rule stating you can only take the series 66 if you have taken the series 7 in the prior 2 years. I completed my series 7 three years ago... yup.

So then we waited again. My manager, his manager and team all went to HR asking for some type of extension to give me one more chance at taking the 65. Per FINRA, I did have one more time to attempt the exam however, they require a 30 day waiting period in between attempts - that means the soonest I could try again would be Feb 26th - which is roughly 2 weeks after my 180 day deadline. Two weeks. So we waited. and waited.

Finally, they just got back to my manager with a decision that they are denying any exception or extension and I will be terminated February 13. While I do completely understand their reasoning behind no exceptions and yes I signed a pretty clear contingency agreement, it seemed insane to me that they are going to go through a complete new hire process which takes 4-6 months on average and getting someone retrained instead of granting 2 extra weeks but that is neither here nor there.

I 100% believe everything happens for a reason. After 7.5 years, God is saying it's time to leave the Wells Fargo world. While this is kinda terrifying (mostly because I brought home majority of the income and all benefits were under my name) I am also excited at some new opportunities. All the licenses I have obtained throughout the years are mine to keep and take to any other firm. I also have my BA in Communication and my MBA with an emphasis in Marketing - both from California Lutheran University so I am confident that there is something else out there. I do have true peace about this whole thing though knowing that God has a plan for me.

So what's next:

1. We already had some big goals in place for my husband this year - getting his Contractors License and really ramping up his own business, so that is still going to be focused on, even more so now.

2. I am going to take a week or two to myself. As mentioned before, I have always been going going going from school to working multiple jobs at the same time as school, to being a new mom and constant career licensing so I am going to take a week or so for some self care.  I will also use this time to FINALLY get our house and things in order. Need to get some sort of control over my life and I have been telling myself I will go through and simplify and declutter after ___.. well now is the time.

3. During this self care time I will also be really spending some time coming up with a plan for what I truly want to do. Wells Fargo was my first "career" when I was 19! I never thought I would go into the financial world, I just started as a part time teller and rode the wave seeing where it took me. So I want to dig deep and discover what lights my fire and where I should plant some seeds - whether it be in or out of the financial world. Looking forward to checking out the CLU Career Services center and learning more about myself.

4. Before Wells I started a small business helping businesses get organized but ended it after being at Wells and going full time because it seemed to be a slight conflict. So I will also revisit that and look into starting back up my consulting business - whether it be a full time option or part time, we will see.

5. Embrace this time with Cameron! While I will definitely look for a new job, especially for one with benefits because Cobra is EXPENSIVE I will try and really enjoy this extra time with Cam. He will still be going to daycare but I will be able to drop off or pick up whenever and possibly check out some mommy and me classes.


So why lucky number 13?

13 has always been my lucky number! For starters, M is the 13th letter of the alphabet (Meghan, Matt & Mickey Mouse - Hello!) February 13th also happens to be mine and Matt's wedding anniversary - 5 years this year, we were married in 2013! Matt and I were best friends for 13 years (together for 8 years) before I became pregnant. Cam was born on Oct 13th. so yeah, I love the number 13. So when I heard my last day would be Feb 13 I was kinda bummed and then immediately relieved.

To me it is a sign of hope, a sign that God has something better, grander, and more amazing than I could have ever dreamed of that will be taking place starting February 13, 2018!

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future"  - Jeremiah 29:11

Monday, February 5, 2018

Jan 29 - Feb 4 Recap

Hey All! Happy Monday!

How is it already a new week?! Last week flew by! It was a pretty weird week with still being in limbo with work (as of today they STILL haven't given an official decision although we are all pretty sure Feb 12 will be my last day), Matt being super sick starting Friday night, and Cam being ultra clingy. But hey, we survived another week!

Here is my overall recap of the week. Really working hard on staying positive, finding the silver lining, trusting that God's plans are FAR GREATER than any I could imagine, and being patient (which I REALLY REALLY suck at).




Some highlights of this week:

- Cam and I spent a ton of quality time together over the weekend and it was the FIRST weekend in SIX MONTHS that I wasn't distracted with needing to study or stressed out about my test. I decided to stop studying and give myself a break. Assuming Feb 12 is my last day so I won't be retaking the exam and worst/best case they decide to grant an extension I will get back to studying but in the meantime, I am giving myself a much overdue break. It really felt great being able to just fully enjoy hanging out with him! He is such a smart kid (I know... all parents say it... but seriously!) He did an amazing job going in the potty all weekend too!

My teeth brushing buddy

My snuggle buddy

- Given the possible outcome of being unemployed, I have been having some pretty raw conversations with Matt and we have been dreaming big together. I am actually a little excited at taking this situation as a huge opportunity to revisit some dreams/big ideas I had before I started working for Wells and bringing them to fruition! More to come on that later...

This was how I got anything done this weekend! Yay for the Ergo!

All the extra cuddles!

- Budget wise I am extremely proud of us! This past week even with taking Cam shopping for a few hours I only spent $15 - honestly that is huge! Especially considering I went to Michaels, Kohls & Target! I think that deserves a standing ovation LOL 


- Food wise, we have been sticking to homemade / or frozen heat up at home meals! I can't believe how much we are saving with that! Pretty embarrassed at how much money we have thrown away over the years on eating out! Friday Cam and I scored some pretty awesome deals at Vons - gotta love $5 Friday + super bowl specials! I even planned ahead and stocked up on some steaks so we can celebrate our anniversary/Valentines Day in without spending too much - or just some other nice stay at home date nights.

How could I pass up that deal?!

Score!!!

Pretty yummy breakfast at home this weekend!

Super easy and yummy dinners!

My little helper

- Fitness wise - When I realized it was Saturday ALREADY I also realized, wow I haven't done any activity all week! So I took Cam to the shopping center in Moorpark, put him in the stroller and walked the entire center and in and out of all the shops. It was a lot of fun, got us some fresh air and Cam always likes his stroller. Sunday morning when I woke up I told myself I have to at least get in one real workout for the week so although Cam was super clingy and fussy I put on my Beachbody On Demand and got through the Country Heat workout.

Got in one day of working out!

That pretty much sums up everything that happened this past week. I am nervous, anxious and excited for some things I have in the works and can't wait to share them all with you - but first I need the final decision from my work! ugh! As promised, I will keep you all informed. Thanks to all who have messaged or texted me asking how I was doing and wanting to follow up on my work situation! It means a lot know how many people I have caring about me and my family!

Thanks for following along in my journey.

And one more adorable picture to close out the week!